Get Inspired: Miscarriage and Postpartum Survivor

Joining us today is a blogger I personally find incredibly inspirational. Her name is Alyssa and you can find her at She’s Mommafied. Her journey as a mother has not been an easy one, filled with both a miscarriage and postpartum depression. BUT, she has survived both experiences, finding strength and support through her blog.

after miscarriage

How does the woman you are today differ from the “sarcastic, bossy, Oreo eating, hip hop listening, Twitter addict” from your pre-baby days?
Those characteristics are just as present now as they were before I was a mom! I still am, and hopefully always will be, quirky and outspoken and free spirited, because I’ve made it my mission to  bring who I truly am to the table as a mother. Yes, my priorities have changed and I can handle way more diaper changes than I can tequila shots these days, but I certainly haven’t lost myself. I’m far more mature and responsible than I was just a few years ago, but I’m still a human being, and I’m totally OK with my daughter knowing that and learning how to be true to herself too!

You are very open on your blog about the terrible loss you suffered when you miscarried.  How has writing about your grieving and healing process helped you?
If I didn’t turn to blogging during that very dark time in my life, there’s a good chance that I wouldn’t be a blogger at all today. The Internet, which seemed at first like my desperate attempt to find someone who could understand what I was going through, turned into my livelihood! I have been able to connect with thousands of women and even create bonds with some other mommy bloggers that I now truly consider my bests friends. Right at the tips of my fingers is a world of women who know, who care, who are real, and are willing to cry with you when the world isn’t on your side. The writing itself has helped me get things off my chest, but what has truly helped me heal is the interaction that comes along with blogging.

after miscarriage

What are some of the natural parenting methods you’ve decided to pursue for your daughter, Lyla? Why are these decisions important to you?
I believe that the use of medical interventions is often excessive. Of course, medicine is wonderful when it’s needed, but many people are losing confidence in their body’s ability to do much of the work for them. It was my goal to bring Lyla into this world as naturally as possible, and I’ve made strides to keep her close to nature since she was born. Breastfeeding and baby wearing have been huge aspects of her life, with no end in sight as of yet! We started using cloth diapers when she was 7 weeks old, and we follow Dr. Sear’s alternate vaccine schedule with a few minor adjustments. I do my best to feed her organics, and I’m conscious of the ingredients in products I use on her skin. I’m far from perfect. We use disposable diapers at night and when we’re out and about, and I use FAR more paper towels than I should. I don’t break my back trying to be “crunchy” or “green”, but I embrace natural parenting AND natural living methods that are a good fit for our family.

Tell us about your experience with postpartum anxiety.  How are you doing now?
Postpartum anxiety was a living nightmare that I never saw coming. It took the strong, confident, independent woman that I was and crushed her into someone that couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t leave the house and felt like she was doing everything wrong. I was terrified. I honestly believed at the time that I would never feel OK again, and feared being hospitalized because of malnourishment and extreme exhaustion. I knew that my only hope would be getting professional help. After a few weeks of counseling and medication, I was starting to come around. I connected with other PPD moms on Twitter and got a great deal of support as I was trying to navigate through a really scary time. Thankfully, I made it through and was soon able to be the mother I wanted to be. I still take medication, and I’ve learned that that’s nothing to be ashamed of!

More from Alyssa at She’s Mommafied:
Empowering Women: Alyssa’s message is simple: Be confident with who you are as a mother, mistakes and all.
In Case You Thought I Was Sane: Laughing so hard that your stomach muscles hurt is a good thing.
Don’t JUDGE Me!: Let’s not kid ourselves. Judgments are natural.

About Francesca

One of two behind The SITS Girls and Bloggy Boot Camp. Believer that this community is a movement, and not just a website. Currently on a quest for unending free WiFi & stronger caffeine. I'd love to get to know you better: Find me on Twitter @FranBanducci and on Google+.
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Comments

  1. says

    One word…checked out her blog…HILARIOUS! For someone who has been through so much I love her sense of humor and outlook. Her post today was hilarious…I was late checking out this blog but glad I did….her vlog is priceless!

  2. says

    Wow what challenging times. I can’t wait to delve into her blog.
    We need more “real” moms and “real” wives saying our piece. It’s about time we all started to see that supermom is not real.

  3. says

    As a mom who’s suffered 14 miscarriages, and suffered PPD after my last pregnancy, I definitely applaud anyone who is open and honest about it and is out there to try to help others with their experiences.

  4. says

    The original link is broken. You left out the “m” at the end.

    I can relate to this woman, on many aspects. The situations she’s been through one is a recovering survivor from for the rest of their lives.

  5. says

    I have made a lot of the same natural parenting choices as you did, including the alternate vaccine schedule and cloth diapers. Not natural all the way, either, though! And I agree that medical intervention is often excessive, but I was SO happy for it when my little guy got dehydrated this past weekend from a stomach bug. I was very grateful for doctors, nurses, hospitals and IVs that brought my little boy back to me:)

  6. says

    Love that you’ve featured a PPD mom. I’ve been there – am there – and I echo what she said about blogging. It helps but the community support is an absolute lifesaver. Will definitely go and visit her 😉

  7. says

    It takes a lot to write about something so personal, but when I’m looking around on the internet I want to read about real experiences – not tips from a book. Very cool.

  8. says

    I have missed out on a few features. A couple of days in bed will do that to you.
    Excited to get back into the swing of things.

    ♥ theMRS.

  9. says

    Her resiliency is amazing!! I am absolutley going to follow her. I work in the mental health field and I know how difficult postpartum can be. Amazing lady.

  10. says

    That is tough. I think survivor is a good term for what she’s gone through. I went through it as well. I lost four pregnancies in a year’s time and what a roller coaster ride that was. It is even more tough when you are in the baby capitol of the world (Salt Lake City). Fortunately, ours had a happy ending. A year later, we were on our last try and we were lucky enough to get one that “stuck”. He’s now 12 and on restriction (again!), but we love him to death and are so grateful to have him.

  11. says

    Baby loss is always heart-wrenching! When that happened to me, people didn’t talk about it – and so there you are, having lost a child and noone to talk about. That is what makes the blogahood wonderful – there are women out there to encourage, let you give voice to your grief and find peace!

  12. says

    Hugs to you for all you have been through. I had PPD very badly, it was just awful. I’m going to check out your blog. glad you found people to talk to online. sometimes its easier to talk to people online, than to talk to family.

  13. says

    I can’t imagine what she went through– it’s heartbreaking, but a wonderful display of strength and courage! Go, Alyssa!