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How To Spot and Treat Depression – A Personal Story

By Jan 30, 2012January 28th, 201529 Comments

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This week, Food and Lifestyle focuses on YOUR well-being and state of mind. Identifying and getting over depression is something that many, many women struggle with – often in silence. Today, Lindsay from Leelala shares her personal story about her struggle with depression in a very lovely way.

Spot Depression

I am so excited to be here today, sharing my heart with you all.

Today I want to talk about a topic that hits close to home:


It’s something that millions of Americans struggle with,

myself included.

Let’s start with my story…

What do you do when your life comes crashing down on you?
When you’ve hit rock bottom and are not sure you will ever make it out?
Believe it or not,
this was my reality.

For so long, I blocked my past out of my mind.
It wasn’t until I reached my college years,
when it ALL caught up to me.

I began spiraling out of control.
From the outside, I paint a pretty picture.
I let everyone think I was fine, happy, content.
Inside though, I was dying.
Miserable. Unhappy. Lost. Confused.
I shut out my best friends.
I shut out my family.
I searched for love in all the wrong places.
I made bad decisions.
I had no ambition.
I was living a huge lie.

For some they may have sought counseling.

For me, the BEST solution seemed to be medicine.

An anti depressant to be exact.
My doctors believed this would be the answer to all my problems.
“It would get me over this hump”- their exact words.
At the time, I was numb, yet desperate, so I obliged.

I became a pro at putting a band-aid on my problems and moving on.

Eventually though, the hurt and pain catches up to you.

Scars begin to show through.


Obviously I found my way out of a deep dark hole.

My life today is more blessed than I ever thought possible.
But you want to know something?
It wasn’t the medicine that got me “over the hump”.
It was A LOT of prayer.
Trusting Jesus.

So for all you that may be struggling in a mountain of darkness,
have faith.
Be patient.
NEVER give up hope.


While I am no expert,

here are some red flags to spotting depression:




Loss of energy

Loss of interest

Sleep changes

Appitite changes

Suicidal thoughts

Maybe you have one of these symptoms.

Maybe all of the above.

Whatever your situation, each individual is DIFFERENT, and depression should be handled and dealt with in a manner to best suit you.

I got through it. Barely, but I did.

What has worked for me?


Instead of hanging onto pain and suffering, I have learned to hang on HIM to get me through.

“God will never give you more than you can handle”


My amazing family and friends.

Positive environments.

Blogging. Truly has been the best outlet for me.

My sweet baby girl. My accountability day after day.

Thank you so much for hanging with me today. And thank you SITS for the welcome.

I love meeting new friends, so stop by my blog and say hello.

Many blessings to all of you, wherever you may be in life.

About the Author

LeelalaI am Lindsay, the girl behind the blog. Lee La La. I am a Momma. I am a so called writer. I am an occasional crafter. I am a fashion lover. It’s nice to meet you! Blog.Facebook.Twitter.Shop.

About Alina Thomas

Alina is a Northern Virginia wedding photographer based out of Leesburg, VA. She has a passion for arts and design, and strives to express it through her work. She is creative at heart and loves nothing more than sharing her knowledge in photography with other Virginia wedding photographers on her blog each week. Alina loves being a new mom to her first-born and spending time with her husband who helps her run her businesses. Please feel free to follow her on: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest or Google+.


  • Madison says:

    My mother has been suffering from depression for about three years now. It’s on and off, one month she will be good and the next she will be awful. As a family, we really don’t know what to say to comfort her. We are mainly just there for support.

    Thank you for sharing such a personal story.


  • kisha says:

    Thank you for sharing such a personal story. So often this struggle is shrouded in shame and silence. Which helps no one.

  • Great post, it’s good to share. I find that there is still such a stigma attached to depression, which is silly. Depression happens. Just like hypothyroidism happens, and cancer happens, and flu happens. It is a proven physical condition, so people should get over their judgmental selves.

    I have no problem with my medication, but in a sense I am lucky, having experienced no side-effects and not finding it to cause emotional blunting. So my meds really are helping me to deal with things better. It’s not the same for everyone: the important thing is that everyone figures out what works for them.

  • Lady Jennie says:

    I’ve been struggling with depression for almost 20 years now and have taken medicine for most of that time. It’s not clear whether it’s a hereditary chemical imbalance, life trauma or head trauma from a car accident (all of which I have suffered).

    But when I first started taking medicine I felt so ashamed and so guilty. I went to a generalist for a cold and came out for a prescription for anti-depression. It was that obvious to him that I was depressed, even though it was not obvious to me that wanting to die meant that I was depressed.

    I think as important as prayer is for those who believe, it’s also good not to undermine medicine. (I don’t think that’s what you’re doing at all here – but I know a lot of people who think that prayer should be enough and who say that if you’re a “good enough” Christian you don’t need medicine).

    In 2 Kings 20:1-7 it was God who healed Hezekiah, but he did it through a treatment.

    Just my two cents for whatever it’s worth. 🙂 And you and your daughter are beautiful!

  • mindy says:

    Beautiful. So well written. My personal fight is with anxiety but depression is a close cousin. It is always right there.

  • Great blog. I’m dealing with stress, depression & anxiety right now. Trying to cope & I’m on meds.

  • Pamela list says:

    What a heartfelt story thank you for sharing.

  • Thank you for sharing your story. Talking about depression and other deeply personal struggles isn’t always easy. Being vulnerable, especially online, is scary so I really appreciate your willingness to take the risk.

  • Tammy says:

    Loved this…I too am overcoming depression. Most days I am great, but there are a few where I am down. I am still on medicine and probably will be for a long time!

    Thanks for sharing your story!

  • Thanks for sharing your story and the path that helped you. “What do you have to be depressed about?” is what I hear too often. Depression is not about a specific situation. Sharing like you have will help people better understand what we are going through.

  • Marie Cole says:

    Wow, that was beautiful and so hopeful for so many who struggle with depression, thank you for sharing this.

  • I am glad that you feel comfortable with the medication. However, I didn’t end up with a rainbows and butterflies ending. You can read my whole story on my site, but the medication basically made me into a monster and came really close to ruining my life.

  • Laura says:

    It is so good that you are bringing depression into the spotlight. It is a huge problem during the teenage years & parents need to know what signs to look out for. A friend of my daughter’s committed suicide Sunday night over a girl. It is so sad. I’m glad you were able to pull yourself back up. Prayer works every time.

  • Depression can be so difficult to deal with and totally debilitating. I’ve had my bouts of it over the years and it is about finding the coping mechanisms that work the best for you. Medication can be a critical component and a complete life changer. It’s definitely not the only solution but shouldn’t be dismissed.

  • Sarah says:

    Oh, thank you for this post! I so needed it. I am just coming to terms with my own journey and thankful that I am on the uphill side now. Thank you!!

  • I’d encourage you to not call yourself a “so called writer”. I’d encourage you to own it. What’s keeping you from owning it?

    Think about that.

  • Angela says:

    Thanks for sharing your story….you are very brave. So happy you’ve found a way of coping. And that you are helping others become more aware.

  • Jamie says:

    She’s amazing!

  • Thanks for sharing your story, Lindsay
    My mother has suffered from depression all her life, which created a shaky upbringing for me. I truly hated her until I went through several years of depression myself. I didn’t know what was wrong with me even though I saw what my mom went through. It took some deep soul searching and life changes for me to crawl my way out of depression and I’ve never looked back. The past 10+ years has brought me growing happiness and I’m thankful.

    I love what you shared here. If it weren’t for these types of stories, people wouldn’t understand. I didn’t. I used to think that people needed to just get over themselves; now I understand that it’s not that easy.

  • Life As Wife says:

    Kudos to you for sharing your story! So many people suffer from depression and don’t even know it. It’s important for people to talk about it and for it not to be treated like a social stigma.

  • Andie says:

    Thank you so much for sharing. While I’m reading about the problems that you had, it made me realized that I also had/still have those same problems. And your story is ver encourage me to fight. I love Jesus and I know that one day He will help me get through it. 🙂

  • Charlotte says:

    Thank you so much for opening up and sharing this with us. I imagine it could not have been easy to get this out in such a public format but I really appreciate an honest blogger above all else. And this is something I can relate to as well. Off to check you out now!

  • Josefina says:

    I love this. I feel like I’m still looking for words to tell what happened to me, but it is a similar story. Jesus set me free, and is setting me free daily.

  • Melanie says:

    It’s always lovely to see someone share their personal story to help others.

  • It is amazing that within each of us is a power greater than we know and tapping into it and rising above our challenges releases the power. Your poem and writings are powerful and I congratulate you on rising above what you never imagined you could.

  • Masala Chica says:

    There should be more people brave enough to talk about depression. Its so stigmatized in our society and that is really sad. What is going on in our heads is just as important as what’s going on in the rest of our bodies and they are pretty much connected.

    I am glad you found your way. Jesus probably isn’t going to work for me, but I do respect that you have found your peace. I am working towards mine as well …

  • Elyse says:

    I can relate. I lived a life that was not my own and lost myself. A soul came into my life that very subtly pushed my eyes open. I learned how to let go of the fear and grab onto the things I love and the dreams I have.

    And as a result …. I got a call last week from the producers of Cupcake Wars!!!! I hope they love our video and give us a shot.

  • Amazing! I love how you made this personal and so easy to identify with. The list of things to look for makes it easy to do self check.