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How to Survive Your Toddler’s Temper Tantrums

By Oct 2, 2011 November 3rd, 2014 23 Comments

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Ever been at your wit’s end, completely unsure what to do about your toddler’s temper tantrums? Of course you have. And so has every other mother on the planet.

Please join me in welcoming Jeanette from Craftwhack.com to The SITS Girls today. She’s giving a step-by-step overview of how to survive your 2 year old’s temper tantrum. It is advice we all need at some point!

Learn how to survive your toddler's temper tantrums, and bring peace back into your home.

Temper Tantrums: A Survival Guide

Morning begins. You wake up to a smiley little angelic boy who nuzzles into your neck and lets you change his diaper with nary a peep.

Five minutes later. Living Room. Little angel goes berserk for seemingly no reason- complete with arching back, high-pitched, ear shattering screams, and poundy-footed floor writhes.

Congratulations, your child is 2. Since I am currently experiencing this with my second child, I am an expert in temper tantrums. Here I have compiled for you, free of charge, my guide to gracefully weathering fits of epic proportion.

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First off, you must remain calm. And not the fake, angry-smiling, low/tense voice calm. You must Zen yourself out during a temper tantrum. This entails regarding your child as scientific subject matter- fascinating and worthy of observation from a safe distance.

Notice the interesting shapes his body makes whilst contorted. Does he meet your gaze from time to time or is he unaware of any other presence, consumed by his present displeasure?

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At this point you may be tempted to try to help the subject to calm down- you may want to hold him or engage in upbeat conversation about trains or Elmo. Don’t. The subject will require further cooling off time and will respond unfavorably to any attempts of pacification.

Your job now is merely to continue to observe, while providing a safe environment for flailing purposes. Try to enjoy the expressiveness of this time with your child. The noises that emanate from his wide open pie hole can be beautiful and exotic.

In fact, you may choose to consider this your “alone time” for the day. Perhaps you can catch up on some mental meal planning, or take a few deep, cleansing breaths. Go ahead! You deserve it.

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Presently, the little beast’s attention may be diverted by an accidentally kicked toy or piece of furniture. He may even momentarily stop shrieking and peek at the object- perhaps even fully turn his attention to the object for a good few minutes.

This is when you can spring into action! Join the subject in exploring the newly discovered item, and with any luck, he will forget that he was upset.

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Bingo! After some wiping away of tears and liqui-boogers, a smile may emerge on his little face, and at this point, you may dissolve into tears. Or, if you are not premenstrual, you can embrace the relief you feel. At least until right after naptime.

About the Author

Jeanette Nyberg writes the blog Craftwhack.com and is trying to find some way to crawl inside of her computer and live there. In the meantime, she owns 1 husband, 2 kids, 2 step kids, and 1 ancient canine, with whom she shares many laughs.

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  • Alicia says:

    The joys of a 2 year old! I have a precious little one myself.

  • Amber says:

    Goodness, I needed to find this one day sooner than I did. My daughter had her first kicking-flailing-shrieking-crying fit yesterday. Every attempt I made to figure out what was wrong added fuel to her fire.

    She is only 15mos and I guess this is a preview of the “terrible twos”, although I think the “threes” should replace the twos-based on what I’ve experienced from others.

    I thank you for this. I was able to laugh about it even though it seemed like the world was going to end yesterday.

  • I’m another one experiencing this joy at the moment. It would be much easier to find my zen if he was just a little quieter with his screams.

  • this is my life RIGHT NOW. I completely agree with your hilarious tips! I love the line about “wide open pie hole”. This tantrum you described sounds spot on to my sons “performances”.

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  • Amanda says:

    So, what do I do if she follows me around, screaming and flailing in my “zen space?” ‘Cause my two-year-old takes temper tantrums to a whole new level!

  • Angie says:

    Wow…just wow….PERFECT timing for this post.
    I know that I’m not alone but sometimes it feels like everyone is staring at my kid- the ONLY one in the room who isn’t smiling and playing perfectly with other children. I’m beginning to fall into that “I must be a horrible parent” thought process every time my little gal loses her temper (again). The worst (and most counter-productive) advice I’ve gotten so far is to, “…just don’t let your child act like that” or, “Tell her we don’t act like that” or my personal favorite, “Give her the look and she’ll straighten up.” When that (not-suprinslgy) doesn’t work we both just feel worse. sigh….
    I’m only with my child for a few hours a day- why does it feel like I spend the majority of that time angry with her?

  • Naked Humans says:

    […] Craftwhack on October 3, 2011 First off, I have a guest post up at The Sits Girls web site. Here’s the link if you would care to take a gander- It’s my take on weathering a 2 year old meltdown. Come to think of it, it might come in […]

  • Marie Cole says:

    Does that work for adult temper tantrums too? 😉

  • Love this… thanks Jeanette! You’ve reminded me that we are all in this together! Cheers!

  • Where in the world was this post when my toddler was screaming for 90 minutes on an airplane 2 weeks ago? lol

  • Great way to handle this! As the mom of 4 grown kids, I am sure i tried every tactic known to moms! But this works well, if you can not let it get under your skin. It is not a personal attack on you!

  • Bethany says:

    I did something similar except all I did was pick them up, take them to their room and close the door. I just can’t “zen” out when they are right there screaming! Though I think it’s harder for my husband. But in any case I think that helped them learn fairly quickly. But the not-reacting part is so crucial!

  • Life As Wife says:

    Ugh I don’t look forward to those days!

  • My daughter had one of these yesterday and I chose this affect. It took about 25 minutes of her rolling around on the floor, screaming, and kicking but eventually it stopped. Now my husband sat there mad as heck because she was disturbing his peace during the Pitsburgh Steelers game…men:)

  • I remember waiting these out too.

  • Wow… my toddler is at this moment throwing a tantrum and he is exhibiting the exact reactions as in this post. I’m just going to wait it out… and check out the FB site as well…

  • LOVE this!! Just tweeted it. 🙂