Blue Cotton Memory-Faith & Love in Raising Boys to Men

By Jul 7, 2011January 26th, 2015105 Comments

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It’s my pleasure to introduce you to Maryleigh, the writer of Blue Cotton Memory.  Maryleigh is mom to FIVE boys and has a unique perspective as some or those boys are “grown”.  Please join me in giving Maryleigh a big SITS welcome.

What is your blog about?
Blue Cotton Memory is about the faith, love and politics of raising boys to men – Drop by for some homespun stories that provide laughter, insight into raising sons, solution options for challenges faced by both mothers and sons in and outside that relationship, and maybe just an echo of your own experience. Sometimes those echoes not only comfort but encourage. When you drop by you can expect some good food – the boy’s favorites of course.

Why did you start blogging?
After working at the local newspaper in college, I went to graduate school to become an editor. I taught my way through as a Teaching Assistant, teaching remedial writing classes. My oldest son was born at the end of my first year. I quickly realized that a news writers job did not have family-friendly hours. I continued teaching comp classes, grew my family. At one point, I homeschooled my boys and taught. I even wrote high school soccer articles for the local newspaper, only because that is where my boys were. Finally, 2 years ago a colleague told me about blogging – and I thought – well, newspapers are declining, family-friendly hours are still a requirement, and my dream just pined away. There was so much I wanted to say and no viable forum on which to say it – until I entered the blogahood. With the click of a mouse, my writing dream came to life. SITS, like my favorite coffee shop, was an important part of that beginning – providing a safe, comfortable place to meet and make connections as I found my footing in this wonderful new world.

Tell us about your “Unconditional Love Rules”.
My Unconditional Love Rules, to be blunt, grew from my heart struggles with teen challenges. The older I get, the more challenges I face raising my sons, I am continually amazed at the unconditional depth and breadth of the love God placed in me to not hold grudges, never give up, to hope in Faith, and to love when you do not feel like it, the desire to reach down to the tip-toes of your soul and pull love out because sometimes feeling love is hard. Finding it is a choice. There is a God-designed nobleness in knowing love, choosing love, no condition love! My Unconditional Love Rules recognize the challenge and encourage that love choice.

What is your favorite thing about being a mom to 5 boys?
My very favorite part of being a mom to 5 boys is watching all the different ways my sons show nobleness, courage, leadership, love – and humor. Standing in the midst of these boys to men, listening to them talk, some are towering over me (6 ft. 5, 6. ft. 3, 6 ft. and two growing) and some are leaning into me. There is nothing like brother talk. Those are the moments my mouth shuts – and I just listen, thinking, “I am so blessed.”

What is your  Sweetest Mom Moment?
Now that is just unfair – that’s like asking who is my favorite. When my 4th son wrote a mother’s day poem that became my first post, when my youngest came home from school worried about a friend and confided he had prayed for him in the bathroom, when my 3rd son who notoriously teases me Nanny’s cookin’ is better than mine told a friend about my hot wings, “I won’t lie to you. They’re totally awesome,” or when I saw the positive on the pregnancy test for my second son, an answer to a prayer, after years of secondary infertility, or when my oldest son at his wedding asked during the mother-son dance, “Ready to Twirl?”

How do you balance blogging with motherhood?
The Proverbs 31 Woman managed her family and handled real estate. I manage my family, and I write a blog to encourage others. I do what I always told my college comp students to do – whether power walking, driving, sitting at soccer practice, cooking or working in the family business, I work a piece out in my head before I sit down. T.V., bubble bath or writing? Writing wins every time.

Favorite Posts:
Hot Wings Spill Good Words:  Good food equals good words!
Delayed Adulthood Devastates our Sons:  This will make you think!
The Four Horses of Maturity:The Four Horses of  Maturity are named Physical, Emotional, Intellectual and Spiritual”, and if that doesn’t intrigue you into reading this post, I don’t know what will!

About Alina Thomas

Alina is a Northern Virginia wedding photographer based out of Leesburg, VA. She has a passion for arts and design, and strives to express it through her work. She is creative at heart and loves nothing more than sharing her knowledge in photography with other Virginia wedding photographers on her blog each week. Alina loves being a new mom to her first-born and spending time with her husband who helps her run her businesses. Please feel free to follow her on: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest or Google+.


  • MamaRobinJ says:

    Very cool – love hearing the perspective of a mom with 5 boys. I can’t imagine!

  • First off…you ROCK! A mother of 5?? There has to be an award for that?! I just have my one and he keeps me RUNNING all day long. But…make no mistake…I’ve always wanted ALL sons. There is a noticeable shortage of wonderful, honorable, loving, virtuous men in this world. I married one…so there is even LESS than there were when I was looking. I love the line on your picture it is SO true and I’m OVER the top glad to come across another momma that OPENLY regards the Lord in her life and doing things His way. Congrats on your SITS day and thank you for sharing your life with us all! =)

  • Maryleigh, you (and mothers like you) give me hope that when my 9-year-old daughter is old enough to marry, there will be some kind, well-raised *gentlemen* for her to fall head over heels in love with.

    Thank you!

  • April says:

    LOve BCM! Glad she got her SITS day!

  • Bibi says:

    She’s an amazing blogger. I stop by her blog here and there and I always leave inspired and ready to take on my boys.