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When Do You Stop Blogging About Your Kids?

By Feb 8, 2011July 3rd, 201481 Comments

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She Says: Blogging About Kids

She says, She says is an opportunity for us to take thoughtful questions and encourage a healthy discussion in an attempt to discover where we stand and perhaps, develop a position on something we hadn’t thought of before. The identities of our opinionated bloggers  will remain anonymous to avoid influencing anyone with their answers.

Today’s She Says, She Says topic is about when to draw the line if you’re a mom blogger and blog about your children. When is enough, enough? Is it appropriate to be posting about our kids when they’re well into their teens? What is right for your family?

One SITS Girl we interviewed says: “Blogging about raising kids is fine, to an extent, but ultimately their story is not mine to tell and I don’t think writing about them past the age of five (if at all) is appropriate. As they get into school, stories on our blogs can be embarrassing and unfair to them“.

While another had this to say, “Look, I gave birth to my kids and I’m allowed to talk about my life as their mother, that includes me trying to learn how to raise each of their different personalities and growing pains. I have no plans to ever stop writing about my kids“.

Let’s discuss!! Weigh in with your opinion in the comment section below!  Where do you stand?

81 Comments

  • I started my blog right after having my first baby and blogged about my second pregnancy and such. My kids are part of my life and they always will be…so they will always be on my blog. I don’t talk about them in a lot of detail, unless I blog about a birthday party or something cute that they said. I only tell stories that I wouldn’t mind being told about me. If my kids ever ask to not be on my blog anymore, I will stop but until then, they are mentioned on occasion.

  • Lauren says:

    Hmmm…I’d say this might be almost the same as blogging about other people in your personal life, only with your own children you’re the authoritative figure, so as long as you’re being responsible and considerate of your children’s feelings (especially if they don’t know you’re blogging about them), I don’t see anything wrong with it. It’s a little different for me, because I don’t have any kids, but important issues do come up that I’d like to talk about on my blog, but hesitate to do so because it involves family and/or friends. I think, most importantly, it depends on what you feel comfortable with. If you think your children/family/friends could read it and be okay with it, then by all means, but I think you should always think hard about a post that may be more rash towards someone close to you, even if it does bring up a good discussion with your readers. I’ve done that, but either changed names or didn’t mention names at all, so as to protect who I’m talking about if I think it may borderline too personal.

  • Melissa says:

    I know bloggers who use fake names for their family members but I have chosen to use our real names. I omit our last name but many of my readers know me personally, so I don’t have a ton of anonymity. I hope that I will not embarrass anyone I write about, whether it is a friend, my spouse or my kids. I usually try to turn the focus back on my perspective about myself and how it relates to them. They are young so I guess I’ll find out in 5 or 6 years if they don’t like what I wrote!

  • My daughter is just a little baby and I blogg about her very often. Even more often I post pictures of her. I do not use her name neither my husband’s.
    I’m not sure if, when she is older, I’ll be still doing it. Maybe if something very funny happens, or when I feel like the story I want to write is harmless for her. I don’t know. really. I think it will depends on her. Maybe I’ll let her to have her own blog.
    I feel like when the time comes I won’t have to blogg about her so often. My blogg is mostly about the world around me that I see through my camera lens. There is so many things I could talk about. It doesn’t have to be my daughter…
    Anyway sometimes I see moms posting pictures of their naked son/daughter on the toilet, and I think it’s too much. You never know who will visit your site, and what they gonna do with the picture of your child. It happened one time that I posted picture of my daughter with no shirt on her… but before I did that I asked my husband if she doesn’t look too nacked… So, I think it’s ok to blogg about your child, but with some limitations!

  • Dayngr says:

    I’m a big believer in respecting privacy, and everyone’s comfort level is different. I blog about my kids but I don’t use their names, the name of where they go to school (now that they are older) or anymore photos of their faces. It isn’t just about if they or someone they know reads it – it’s about safety too. There are plenty of scary people out there just waiting for an opportunity to do harm, so why give them a helping hand? As parents, we need to use good common sense.

  • I think the advantage to everyone blogging about their kids is that we, as mother’s, now know that we’re not the only ones going through the same crazy stuff that our kids do. After all, don’t all the mothers at school and sports talk about how perfect their kids are to your face. I tell my 32 year old daughter… or is she 31… that she was a perfect child until she hit 17. But, now that I have an 8 year-old grandson and he does things that drive her nuts I remember that she did some of that stuff too. My mother used to tell me that when I grew up and had kids I would get back all the difficulty I’d caused her. I now say this to my daughter. My one rule is blogging about kids would be to be careful of their privacy. Their is danger out there when people know too much about your personal life and it’s important to keep them safe.

  • Tracie says:

    I think it is all about the balance. A little “kid talk” is okay….but not if it is an embarrassing story or picture. Imagine your mom visiting you at high school one day and telling that story to all your friends during lunch period? Are you embarrassed? Then don’t blog it!

  • Vanessa says:

    My kids are still young so I have not thought a lot about it. I think it is an important question to ask and think about. And if the tables were turned – how much would we like our children writing about our personal lives in a public forum. Glad you brought this up and I will keep this in mind.

  • Emily faliLV says:

    Meh – I kind of look at it like parenting choices – Your blog, your choice. Your baby, your choice.

    But personally – I will stop when it feels uncomfortable. But I can say embarrassing stories/pictures stop after age of 5 for certain. Anything people could use against him for any reason.

    I also stopped using my son’s name on my blog a long time ago.

  • My blog is more creative oriented, though I do share little kidlet stories or things they might say, and I don’t want them to have to be held accountable for my blogging whims, wants, or wishes. So, I try (*try* is the key word!) to consider whether something could cause embarrassment or amunition for any kind of teasing or harrassment down the road. Kind of sad that this even has to be considered. But, the fact is, the everyday teasing that used to just occur on the school playground or at a park or in the neighborhood can now be taken global via the wonderful world of cyberspace that we all love and I try to keep that in mind. :>

  • mangiabella says:

    interestingggggg…..i’m sure there is a balance like everything else, between sharing certain things about how your children and being a mother impact your life, and very personal things that might not be appropriate to share with the world – use discretion and wisdom!

  • I recently spent an entire day meticulously editing out my last name on my blog. Search Engine Minimization, so to speak. I want to be able to tell the stories that make up our life, without it coming back to haunt my family. But I will keep writing about my child. My family lives on the other side of the world and this is the diary/photo album I keep for them and us.

  • Lady Jennie says:

    Great discussion!

    Hmmm. I think writing about them is natural, but we should watch that what we say puts them in a beautiful light. It’s okay if we want to be raw and vulnerable about ourselves, but our children (usually) did not give us that permission so we need to be careful.

  • Date Girl says:

    I think it’s ok, but that’s a big reason why I blog annonymously. I’m not sure if I will post pictures of my kids when I have them. It took me years to post my own face. I want to make sure I protect their privacy as much as I can. But I don’t think I will limit my blog. I love the outlet of being able to talk about my relationship, and I can’t imagine not turning to my fellow bloggers when I tackle the challenge of parenting.

  • vanita says:

    When I blog about my kids, it’s not just about them, it’s about their relationship with me, so i think i’ll stop blogging about them when our relationship gets boring. or has less drama. they’re teens, ya’ know?

  • Honestly, if I have a question as to whether something will upset my kids, I just ask them. I know for a fact that many of their friends’ mothers read my blog so I certainly don’t want to write anything that will get back to their friends and embarrass them.

  • Stefanie says:

    This is a GREAT debate. I have two teens and a five year old. I have learned some very hard lessons when it comes to blogging about my kids. I now do not blog ANYTHING about my boys unless I ask them first, have them read the blog or watch the vlog and approve it. It really should be up to them at a certain age. We all know how difficult the middle school and high school years are. The last thing they need is for their mom to add any outside pressure on their fragile adolescent lives.

  • It’s understandable since your children are a major part of your life right now, but what will you blog about when they grow up? 🙂

  • Bella says:

    I blog about them and I will continue to but I keep some things sacred. For instance, I will not publicize one of my children’s bedwetting issues or talk about my teenager getting caught doing um….teenager things.

  • Amy says:

    You will always have kids. When they are 5 or 50, they are still your children. I don’t think you would ever stop talking about them so why stop including them in your blog? ALthough my blog is not primarily about them, I do mention them ocassionally

  • My blog is also (and mainly) my record book or baby book and I suppose those stop at 5. I would LOVE to have recorded stories of me growing up so I will continue to do it for my kids. The majority of what I write about isn’t embarassing; it’s informative.

  • My children are still young (under 5) so it hasn’t become an issue yet. I try to keep the mom perspective (e.g. I felt or I observed and did this). When writing I do think about their potential embarrassment and either keep out some details, down play them or delete out of respect for them.

  • vivi b. says:

    well, i have no kids yet but i think that it’s ok to talk about them as long as they know that you are going to blog about them. that’s what i do when i post about my husband.. i let him know that i will post something about him… some of my readers are his friends so i need to be careful too =D

  • Mimi says:

    I have older daughters (late teens) and adolescent boys. I would never blog about something that would actual scar them or allowed them to be bullied or harrassed or made fun of. I write letters to my boys as a post sometimes sharing how I feel as a mom, mostly when they are making me crazy. They are used to me doing crazy stuff with them. I remember when my 2nd daughter went to pick out her first bra. My sister-in-law and I are big scrappers and she took photos in a FUN way of her choosing the bras. That’s how we roll. If she would’ve been like, “don’t you dare” I wouldn’t have. Some kids are more conscientious than others. Each parent knows their own children. My kids, so far, enjoy being part of my blogs. We’re also in a small town and I know no one but ONE of my friends even knows about my blog! Not sure if that’s a good thing or not.

    It’s all up to not only each family, but inside those families respecting each individual. I think as long as we aren’t thinking of ourselves first, then we’ll be ok.

    I also think we need to be VERY careful about judging other bloggers who blog all out about their family and kids. It’s their right to do so. Hopefully we’ll take the feelings of our families into account, and I’m sure most of us do. We’re all just blogging along together figuring it out as we go.

    And if my kid ever says they need counseling because I tortured them on my blog I’ll just deny, deny, deny. *grin*