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How To Feel More Connected In The Blogging World

By Nov 10, 2014January 24th, 201634 Comments

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I remember the exact moment things changed for me in the blogging world. I had joined SITS Girls about a week or two earlier at the request of a fellow blogger, and I was participating in my first SITS Sharefest on Twitter. I shared a photo of my six-month-old son wearing a moose snowsuit, and many fellow bloggers and tweeters oohed and ahhed over him. I realized that people were starting to get who I really am. I am a mother. I am a writer, and a professional photographer. I also love moose.

And my immediate thought was, “I didn’t know it could feel this good. This connected.”

And sometimes, it doesn’t feel that good. It’s normal to feel disconnected or frustrated or hurt or left out. It’s normal to need breaks. It’s normal to have writer’s block, and it’s normal to change your blogging style and your blogging goals.

You may even change them often. It’s normal to want to change and to want to grow. It’s normal to get a little lost in the shuffles of not only the rhythms of your blogging patterns, but also the rhythms of the blogging world as a whole. However, with a solid foundation of growing more connected to your blog, to other bloggers, and to the blogging world as a whole, you may find yourself not feeling lost, but found.

How to feel more connected in the blogging world by finding yourself and making friends

How To Feel More Connected In The Blogging World

Feel connected to your own blog

It took me awhile to secure the URL I wanted, and to also work on the design and atmosphere, with a professional designer in my case. Every so often, even those elements are subject to change. I wanted the overall feel of my blog to match my hopes and dreams for my space. I wanted it to feel a bit like what walking into my house might feel like. What would it look like? Sound like? What would we talk about if you came over for coffee and cookies? That was my goal.

In terms of design and content, be true to you. Write what’s in your head and heart, and people will be able to see your passion. Another important tip is making yourself visible on your blog. Have a clear search box for old posts, have your email address somewhere on your landing page, and have social media icons for all of the social media platforms you are on. You should have an inviting “About Me” page too.

Feel connected to other bloggers

You may have heard this 1,000 times already, but please let me be your 1,001st time. You should reply to comments on your blog. You should comment on other blogs. It doesn’t have to be overwhelming. It doesn’t have to be 100 blogs. Start small and read blogs you’re genuinely interested in reading. See what happens. See those connections grow.

Not only should you be reading other blogs and commenting, share other bloggers’ content too. While you’re at, connect with other bloggers on all social media platforms! Find their social media links on their homepage and click to follow. You can also connect on all social media platforms through link ups on the SITS Girls Facebook page. You can use or search for the #SITSBlogging hashtag and start a conversation on Twitter and Instagram.

Join or host link ups, blog shares and Twitter parties

Really, join any parties. Facebook and blogs have parties, too! I have met so many of my blogging connections through co-hosting Ladies Only Blog Share Link Party, as well as through my current position as host of Ask Away Friday. It’s a fun way to have your say and put your name out there in the ring. If you don’t have the time to host anything, you can add your appropriate links and meet the others doing the same.

Connect with other bloggers in person

Crazy thought, right? That’s what I thought at first but I have since met dozens up my blogging friends in person. Blog conferences are a wonderful way to connect with not only other bloggers, but with blogging practices and lessons beyond just reading on the Internet. I don’t know about you, but I take the classroom setting VERY seriously, even after all these post-schooling years, and attending BlogU in Baltimore in June was very beneficial to me. If blog conferences are out of your budget or geographical area, Meetup.com and Facebook groups and pages are great resources for finding others who get the whole blogging thing! I have arranged small meetups with other New England bloggers.

Find your tribe

Sometimes it takes a little searching to find your blogging people. For me, it was SITS Girls (can’t you tell?) but I’ve also had a lot of luck on Triberr. You can join tribes with bloggers in your niche, if you have one, and you can also create mutually beneficial relationships with a good number of bloggers.

Say “yes”

Say “yes” every now and then, or say it often. Find your comfort level of saying “yes,” and say it! I’ve met some of my best blogging friends by doing so. I have said “yes” to many things: hosting guest posts, writing guest posts, co-hosting link ups and parties, participating in birthday celebration giveaways, sharing content, sharing photos, taking photos, reading and reviewing books, writing IN books, and more.

People will have all sorts of requests and favors in the blogging world, and you will see the ones that work the best for you and your time, and you may get a lot out of it as well. When you need people to say “yes” to you, you will find them easily.

Just be there

Be there with your heart in it. Show up. Be open to new experiences. Write, and write  more. Connect, and connect more. It just may change your life.

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About Tamara Bowman

Tamara is a professional photographer, a mama of two, a writer/blogger and a nearly professional cookie taster. She has been known to be all four of those things at all hours of the day and night. She is a very proud contributor to the book, The Mother Of All Meltdowns. After two cross country moves, due to her intense Bi-Coastal Disorder, she lives with her husband, daughter and son in glorious western Massachusetts. She spends her spare time looking for moose, taking pictures of her kids, and maybe – just maybe – teaching them about photography. She can be found on Facebook @Tamara Camera Photography, Twitter @TamaraCamPhoto , Instagram @TamaraCameraPhoto , and Pinterest @Tamara Camera Photography & Blog and on her blog @Tamara Camera Blog.


  • Eva says:

    Thanks for this post. It’s easy to feel isolated in cyberspace. Your suggestions were very well thought.

  • Mrs.AOK says:

    Very helpful 🙂 I’m feeling more connected these days, although there are days where I feel like I can do more. I would love to attend more blog conferences, and do a few blogger meet ups.

  • Keisha says:

    This is very useful, thanks! I’d never heard of Triberr before. Love the positivity of this post.

  • Ashlee says:

    I think “Just be there” is the greatest piece of advice because it ties a little bit of everything into one. Writing is my emotional outlet, but once I started blogging and got out of journaling, it became so much more. The connection you feel from other bloggers all around the world is incredible. The support from complete strangers. The laughs with similar experiences. It’s all so good. Great post!

  • Yulunda says:

    Thank you for this post as consistency is key and these are practical tips!



  • Cara says:

    This is a fantastic read, so much so that I just shared it with me Twitter followers! What you wrote is so true! And sometimes we may feel tired or exhausted in making the effort, and it is okay to take a short break (we all have those days!). But once you feel re-energized the formula you just listed is the right way to get reconnected :).

  • Brittany M. says:

    I just want to thank you for writing this, it was so inspirational. I am new to blogging, really new, its been a whopping 3 weeks now that my blog has went public and the blogging world can be intimidating. There are so many talented and established bloggers that sometimes I feel inadequate to even reach out, but I truly needed to read this, it has given me a boost. Great post!

    • Tamara says:

      Wow, welcome to the blogging world! It’s totally intense and intimidating and I wish someone had held my hand through it in the beginning. SITS is great that way.
      Keep on keeping on! The blogging world does need your voice.

  • A Ware says:

    This is something I needed to read today. It is hard to reach out since I tend to keep to myself in person and online. Will definitely try some of your tips. Thank you.

    • Tamara says:

      I’m so glad you read it then. Let me know how it goes with the tips! The blogging world is very vast, so sometimes we don’t know what to do first.

  • Elizabeth says:

    Thank you for this! I think I need to work on saying “yes” more and seeking and finding my tribe. I do have some really great blogging friends, but I could use a few more — can’t we all? Thanks and have a beautiful day!

    • Tamara says:

      haha..yes! Never too many blog friends! I have since met several of mine in person and it’s never been disappointing.

  • Naomi says:

    Great post! Thank you so much for the tips. I have heard so much about leaving comments on other blogs, and until you do it, you don’t know how beneficial that is! Thanks for the reminder.

    • Tamara says:

      What’s funny is that I’ve been blogging for four years and it took me three years to figure it out! I’m so glad I switched to commenting.

  • Thank you for the tips! Always good and very practical.

  • Thanks for these reminders. I will check out triberr. I blog mostly for my business’ SEO, but it is hard to write into a void, so I love to get comments on the posts, and that is where a tribe would be nice!

    I haven’t done product reviews in a while but just decided to say “Yes” to a few of them, as I read your article I realized it was partly to feel connected. So this November I’m doing 3 reviews of other people’s products. Let’s see how it goes. Hopefully it will build community.

    • Tamara says:

      That’s cool! I always said I’d never do product reviews, but sometimes they’re just totally perfect and relevant and enjoyable. It’s where I realized I needed a more open mind than I started with.

  • Amber says:

    Love this.

    And yes, I try to say yes often. 😉

  • I needed to read this this morning, thanks! SITS rocks! 😉

    Have a wonderful day everyone! Peace. 😉

  • Laina Turner says:

    I love my blogging friends and the interaction.

  • Dana says:

    I thought the same thing that Rabia did! Even when I’m feeling not so great about blogging, I still feel connected to my tribe. I know that if I stopped blogging today, I would still keep those connections. That’s an awesome thing to be able to say.

    • Tamara says:

      I hear that! I feel like many of us started here at the same time. And I’m so thankful because I do go through ruts and it all helps.

  • Funny, I read the intro and I thought, “I’ll bet this is Tamara writing.” and it was! I’m feeling a little more connected already!