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How to Survive Your First 3 Months of Blogging

By Oct 14, 2013April 30th, 201846 Comments

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So you’ve decided to jump into the blogging world. You have poured your heart out into your first post only to hear crickets chirping. You have read 100 articles on how to be the best blogger and you feel like you have a million things to figure out in order to make your blog perfect. You feel overwhelmed and don’t know where to start.

If this sounds like you, trust me, you are not alone. Nearly every blogger, no matter how big or how popular, has experienced these feelings at one time or another. In the early days of blogging is easy to feel daunted by all the things you need to learn.

How to survive your first 3 months of blogging without being (too) overwhelmed! Blog Tips

Tips on Surviving the First 3 Months of Blogging

Fear not, dear newbie blogger, today we have some tips on how to survive those first three tricky months of blogging.

Level Your Expectations

Think of traffic to your blog as coming from two sources. The first is organic search traffic; people who are on the internet searching on Google for specific keywords and landing on your blog.

The second source is direct traffic. This traffic comes from friends, networking with other bloggers in the blogging community, or through social media. In the beginning, it is not likely that anyone will find your blog through web searches. This is because new websites do not show up very high in search engine results.

A network of blogging buddies and social media followers can take several months to develop. Don’t be discouraged if the first few months are relatively quiet. You can think of this time as an investment in your blog while you generate fabulous content for the readers that will eventually find you.

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Start With the End in Mind

Decide from the very beginning who you want to be in the blogging world. The most successful bloggers have a strong sense of purpose which translates into a strong brand. It’s a good idea to think early on about how you want to be perceived as a blogger. Do you want to be seen as creative and crafty? Funny or quirky? Do you want to position yourself an expert chef or designer?

Think about where you might like to take your blog long-term. Are you blogging for fun? To bring awareness to a cause? Do you hope to turn your blog into a business by one day by offering a service? Do you hope to publish a book? Keeping the end goal in mind will help you feel more confident as you move forward and calm those newbie blogger jitters.

Focus on Making Friends, Not Followers

Blogging is largely about community. Readers will visit a blog because they like the content but they will come back if they genuinely like or can relate to the author. In the blogging world you often hear about something called a “tribe,” a group of bloggers that regularly comment on each other’s blogs and promote each other’s content. Often these tribes develop organically out of friendships formed online.

To start looking for your tribe, find a handful of blogs that you absolutely love. Start commenting on those blogs. Check out who else is commenting on those blogs and go visit them. Comment on as many blogs as you possibly can. Join link-ups and Facebook group, and network, network, network.

As you start to make friends and build a reputation in the blogging community, you will see your traffic start to grow.

Be Genuine, Kind, and Positive

Avoid the temptation to be the needy, desperate, or negative newbie blogger. Often new bloggers fall into the trap of asking for followers. We’ve all seen these comments. “Hi, I’ll follow you if you follow me.” or “Hi, I’m new. I could really use some followers.”

These comments come off as insincere and self-serving. Remember, we’re trying to make meaningful connections and friendships. When you leave a comment on someone’s blog, make sure it is thoughtful and considerate. Take the time to read their post and contribute to the conversation. If you take a genuine interest in others without asking for anything in return, your kindness will pay off over time.

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Hang Out Where Other Bloggers Hang Out

SITS offers some great ways for new bloggers to get connected.  Be sure to visit the The SITS Girls Facebook Group where our friendly community leads are standing by to help you with questions. Don’t be shy to jump into the discussion! The SITS Girls Facebook page offers another avenue to connect with other bloggers. Be sure to comment and check out what other bloggers are posting. It’s a great way to find like-minded bloggers. We also frequently do social media link-ups on Facebook so be sure to check those out. And finally, the Saturday Sharefest Twitter party is another great way to get involved in the community and promote your favorite post of the week.

Release the Need to Be Perfect

Last but not least, let go of any ideas that you have to be perfect. The first three months of blogging are about experimentation, learning and creating a foundation. Remember, there is no perfect blog and there is no perfect blogger. Every established blogger will tell you they learned and evolved over time. You may find that certain things aren’t working for you anymore. You may change your focus; you may even change your blog name. That’s okay! It’s all part of the process of becoming the blogger you were meant to be.

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Your Turn

What are (or did you) find most challenging about your first 3 months blogging? What are your secrets to surviving?

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More Blogging Tips!

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About Stevie

Stevie, short for Stephanie, is a self-proclaimed coffee addict, wife, and mother to three fur babies that have taken over her heart and home. A lover of words and yoga, she blogs at Joy in the Midst of about her quest for joy, learning to love a little deeper, laugh a little more often, and live with more gratitude for all the blessings life has given her. She serves as a Community Lead for the SITS Girls and can also be found hanging out on Facebook or tweeting away at @joyinthemidstof.


  • This was wonderful advice that helped me get rid of some of the hang ups I have had when starting this new adventure!

  • Amy says:

    My sister and I are new to the blogging world and while it is so fun and exciting, it is also pretty overwhelming! These tips were really helpful for me to read this morning. I paused and let out a sigh of relief when I saw the image “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.”

  • Meg Karetny says:

    Hi! I just started my blog 2 days after this article! 🙂 I just came upon this & I’ll be browsing through your blogging tips articles today. I have so many ideas & I have so much to learn. I can’t wait to grow with this & to really make a successful blog someday soon. Thanks for all of the helpful hints & hope to join some blogging (& more crafty) circles soon. Have a great day! Meg Karetny http://nutmegcafe.wordpress.com/

  • Sabrina says:

    This is a great post! I was really starting to think that I am getting in over my head but this calmed me down a bit. It also gave me some things to think about. Thanks a lot!

  • Miss Meanie says:

    I’m an introvert and a total lurker, so making myself comment and try to reach out has been my biggest challenge.

  • In all area of life, kindness takes you a long, long way. You hit the nail on the head when you said make friends not followers. The greatest intangible benefit of blogging is the authentic relationships developed with other bloggers. I agree with having your end game in mind but I also think that bloggers can and will fine tune their goals and message as they get more experience and get more comfortable in their space.

  • Errie says:

    Good Tips. My site has been up for a few months, but I haven’t posted a single post. OMG i have a bad case of the “writer’s scaries”.. lol. But I am getting back on track this week. This post has truly been helpful.

  • So glad I found this and the forums! Can’t wait to start using them! I started my blog a few weeks ago just for fun because it was going to be easier to post my funny stories on a blog rather than Facebook. What I found was that I quickly developed the niche I needed after a friends party. What I didn’t realize was how much work it is! I wish I had even half the knowledge I have now a few weeks ago. I would have planned a little better and waited to start blogging. Now I am conducting interviews, doing research and trying desperately to get into a groove! Time to slow down my expectations.

  • I very much appreciated this post. I’m new to blogging mainly as a creative outlet, and I’m loving it so far.

  • Thank you so much for this post – the idea of trying to find friends rather than followers is such a helpful thought as I try to find my way round this new world of blogging! That would be a wonderful spin-off . I would be so happy to find friends this way who are going through the same worries over photographs and text. I shall really remember this.

  • Marisa says:

    The most helpful tip about I have learned about surviving as beginning blogger is to write your posts ahead of time, and scheduled them for later so you can publish them when you are really busy.

    • I am trying to get a few under my belt so I can schedule ahead! I am user in blogger and set 3 posts to auto-publish but somehow it didn’t work. I have dreams about having an entire week of blogs auto-publish while I daydream about a guest spot on The Ellen Show! 😉

  • Mimsy says:

    I am so happy I found this blog! I just started my blog 3 weeks ago today, and although I’m beginning to get some followers I’ve been wondering how to get more. This article just put it a lot of things into prospective, especially that I shouldn’t be comparing myself to other bloggers who have been blogging a lot longer than me. I can’t wait to read more articles and learn more about blogging 🙂

  • Just the boost I needed! It has been just over 3 months since I started blogging, and to be honest, felt a little lost. Patience and perseverance, that is the way forward. Thank you.

  • Jin Ai says:

    These are really useful tips, Stevie! Very practical and down to earth. I’ve been blogging for about 2 years now and these points still resonate with me. Thanks!

  • Jeanette says:

    This was a really great post…have shared it on Twitter and Pinterest:)

  • Mom254321 says:

    Thanks for the encouraging words! This will help me as I am in my third month of blogging! 🙂

  • I have been blogging for closer to 6 months but these are always great tips. I really need to create a reminder for SITS sharefest because I have heard such great things!

  • Jessica says:

    wow thanks! this is going to be so helpful! I am new to blogging just starting to get my feet wet!

  • I’ve been doing this for about 5 months and I still have so much to learn. This was a great post. Sometimes I need to remind myself to level my expectations. I know I expect too much this early. Thanks for the advice!

  • Erika Lee says:

    As a newbie blogger (just three months in as a matter of fact!) This is a great reminder that every blogger goes through the “crickets” period and if it’s something you are really passionate about you will be able to stick through it and build your brand! My current site is far beyond perfect (in fact I have plans to change the name as was mentioned above) but I knew if I didn’t get out there and start somewhere, I was never going to get it anywhere. I also highly recommend attending a bloggy bootcamp conference, even if your just starting out. I attended this past weekend and found it very helpful in creating my vision for my blog! Thanks SITS girls 🙂

  • Rebecca says:

    Make friends, not followers.

    That seems to be the hardest of all for me. I feel as though I’m reaching out, probably not enough, but I do what I can. I can’t wait for a few more months to pass and I’ll have time to nurture these new blogging relationships!

    Thanks for the article, it is great guidance.

  • This was great!! I have only been going since August, so reading this was very reassuring!!! thank you so much!

  • Neha Khulbe says:

    I have started a new website and this information will help me to survive. Nice use of content with graphics. Good job!

  • I am brand spanking new but have found my share of followers in the past week. It’s enough to get me excited AND overwhelmed at the same time. Your tips couldn’t have come at a better time. I will keep them in mind but will also remember that while success is important I still just want to have too.

  • When I started blogging about eight months ago I stayed completely incognito – did not tell a single friend or family member I was doing it. I laugh at that now. How on earth did I think people would find me? Of course a big part of the answer is that people can find you through the many opportunities in SITS land! This site has helped me immeasurably. Great post!

  • This was a really great post. I’m glad I am not alone in feeling like I need to be perfect. I do this to have fun, why stress over it? Thanks for the tips!

  • Corlie says:

    Wow this post really nails what I feel like right now. I am about two months into blogging and am driving my close friends and family nuts. I want everything to be just right, and it feels around every corner I discoover yet another aspect of blogging and building a website I still need to learn , didn’t know about or have overlooked… It’s really nice to know I’m not alone and that it will get easier 🙂 thanks a million girls!

  • I wish I had had this article when I first started blogging! I am so glad that you guys stressed the importance of realizing that blogging WILL be quiet for the first few months, most likely. Traffic and comments come, once people know about your blog. not the other way around!

  • Thanks for the wonderful encouragement.

  • Chanity says:

    I loved this! I feel like you hit the newbie blogger on the head. I am in my first weeks and although I love it, it’s not as easy as people think!

  • I am really trying to work on not being a perfectionist. I make 300 revisions of every post before I publish it, after already working on editing photos for 2 hours because every little thing has to be lined up perfectly and look perfect. I think this is great information though, and will probably come back here several times over the next few months as encouragement. Thanks for sharing!

  • I’m a researcher and perfectionist by nature :/ so I really was getting discouraged. I needed to be reminded that I tend to compare my beginning to others’ “middle”. Thanks for the perspective.

  • Deanna says:

    I so needed this-I’m in month two of my new blog and it is great to know these tips for a beginner. I feel like I nees to speed things up an have a lot of followers already but this article puts things into perspective-thank you!

  • Excellent post! I’m a little over 5 months into blogging again and I’ve kept an open mind when it comes to expectations. However, it’s so easy to get ahead of yourself!

    Thanks for sharing!

  • Great Post! Lovely tips and I love the images. I am learning more about the community of bloggers, would be great to get to know people through their writings.

  • These tips are great, Stevie! I love the mention of focusing on making friends and not followers and being nice in a genuine way.

    I think the hardest in the first 3 months is to weed through the many many tips and advice that you can find online and that most of the time are contradictory. Always filter all advice through your own brain and for your own situation.

  • Definitely a must-read for all new bloggers, and great reminders for more seasoned bloggers as well. I love how you brought up the importance of community… I remember being so shy and isolated when I first started blogging, which only made it more difficult to build up a following. But stepping out of my comfort zone and becoming more active on social media really helped increase the traffic I was getting to my blog. Great tips, Stevie!

  • Kate says:

    I love the tip about making friends not followers. This is so true. Some of my best friends are now from blogging and it was because I learned to do just this. Great post filled with great reminders even for those of us that have been blogging for a long time.

  • Katherine says:

    I’ve been blogging for years, and these are still great tips and things I need to remember.

  • Alison says:

    Wonderful and practical tips, Stevie. I do feel that forming friendships are essential – not just for mutual promotion for each other’s blogs, but as a sanity saver in this crazy online/ blogging world!

  • Thank you for this post. I am a newbie in the world of blogging. Of course I di have high expectations and all. But then again with this post, PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE and I know (crossing my fingers) my blog will be known and I will have my own followers… Thank you very much for this… I appreciate it…

    • Stevie says:

      I’m so glad I could help in some small way. I love your positive attitude, and yes the followers will come! The more I talk to bloggers I really admire, I see they have been committed to blogging for a year to two years. But they will tell you, it took some time. But it’s encouraging to see where you can end up if you keep at it!

  • Releasing the need to be perfect… Gosh, that is a hard one! I don’t think I have hit publish yet without cringing over at least one of my photos. And the whole purpose of my blog is to show imperfect can be beautiful. I’m sure it just will take some time.

    • Stevie says:

      It is hard! I wrote this just as much for myself as for everyone else. I struggle with that desire to be perfect and do everything right. I think releasing this is something we learn over time, little by little, and probably never stop learning it!