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Why I Write: Sharing Personal Stories On My Blog

By Dec 4, 2014 16 Comments

There are so many stories these days about how people are getting in trouble for how they use social media and their personal blogs. So many individuals are turning away from the release of real writing and turning towards surface posts. Anonymous blogs. Guest posts with no real name or signature.

And while I understand the importance of protecting oneself, and I understand the way that people want to protect their children and their family members, I also think that open and honest writing is what’s real. And I don’t plan on stopping any time soon.

Why this blogger still makes a point to share personal stories on her blog. A powerful read.

Why I Still Write: Sharing Personal Stories On My Blog

If you know me well enough, you know that I’m the kind of person who speaks pretty freely about my experiences. If you don’t know me – well – let me introduce myself by way of my words.

I lost my dad unexpectedly last fall, and there was no way I would have gotten through those early days without writing about my grief. I wrote too much, too often, too little, not enough, when I wanted to and when I didn’t … and that’s how I survived. Still survive.

In my every day life I experience anxiety and sometimes overreact to things that stress me out. And the ability to relay these experiences and have people respond with support and recognition? Critical. The ability to be there as someone who others can relate to? Essential to who I am as a person, especially through my words.

I’m a mom to a beautiful, amazing, brilliant 7-year-old daughter. Motherhood can be rough, unexpected, glorious, stressful and so much more. Writing about those experiences? Those days? The nights she won’t go to bed? The mornings when rushing her out the door can be breathtaking, and not in a good way? Make me relatable and shows you I’m real.

I’m a very emotional person. Sometimes I’m a sap. I’m close to my family. I love my husband. I’m easily frustrated and often fidgety. I’m a person, behind the blog, I’m me. And so, ON the blog? I’m also me.

I didn’t expect for things to turn out this way, but as I wrote I realized the friends I was making through blogging were also real people. They were people who truly cared about my daughter, my anxiety, my stress and my loss.

There are many reasons I’m thankful for blogging. Many reasons I appreciate the outlet that it gives me and the connections I’ve made. Many ways that blogging has empowered me as a mom. And through all of this, what I always remember is that me being me, being open and honest and real? All of that has enabled me to have the opportunities blogging has given me. It’s part of the reason why the majority of my Facebook friends are people I’ve never even met in real life.

It all comes back to the written word. These people got to know me through my blog. Through my words. They continue to know me, all the sides I care to show them, the good and the bad, the happy, the sad (yes, I do realize that rhymed!), the corny and otherwise delightful. They know the difference between my laughs. From a Bwahahaha! to an AHAHAH!!! They know my smiley faces. And they know my voice. My blog did that. I did that. And I will continue to. For as long as I can.

Do you share personal stories on your blog?

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About Andrea Bates

Andrea blogs regularly about being a mom, family and relationships, life in the south, how much she misses New York, lots of great books, and whatever else crosses her mind over at Good Girl Gone Redneck. You can also find her sharing ALL.THE.THINGS over at her Facebook page!

16 Comments

  • […] with a link to a post my dear online friend Andrea of Good Girl Gone Redneck wrote for SITS on sharing personal stories on your blog. It’s so important. That’s why I was drawn to blogging. My readers and fellow bloggers […]

  • Thank you so much for sharing this. I just launched my blog and the main focus is being myself and telling my stories they way they are and not necessarily the way people want to hear it. I agree that there are so many other blogs that people can be reading and if they don’t want to hear about my personal stories then they can find somewhere else to go.

  • Sharing personal stories can be very cathartic and personally, it gives your readers a better insight into who they are spending their time with as there are million of other blogs they can be reading.

  • Sheryl says:

    I began my blog to share my grief journey after my Mom’s death (and then my grandmother’s). As a grief counselor, I wanted to share that my journey was not different than anyone else’s. Somewhere over the spring and summer, I found myself pulling away from being “real” and I didn’t like it. I think I was trying to find a “fit” for my blog but came to realize I need for my voice to be heard. I have found I do not care for blogs that are superficial and feel “superior” or “expert” without sharing their voice. I’m still discovering my voice but feel it is authentic.

  • Jen says:

    Although we write to entertain others, we are artists at the heart of it, and blogging is our medium. There is no art without the sharing of our souls and emotions and my favorite blogs to read are the blogs where I feel like I “know” the blogger. I also share the things that are a part of who I am on my blog. Through blogging I have made some incredible connections with readers and other bloggers. It’s a wonderful way to share our stories so keep doing what you do!

  • Angelica says:

    In my blog’s hey day, I got a lot of compliments for my real-ness. One person specifically said it’s like I’m talking to them face-to-face. I take a lot of pride in that. I could write like it’s a book, but the point of a blog, I think, is to let your personality shine through.

    I’m slowly letting my own voice come out again after years of being oppressed. (I was being harassed by two relatives.) I don’t like to share depressing stories or when I get super pissed off anymore. I don’t want the entire internet to think I’m a horrible person because I’m only 3/4 horrible! 😛

    I can definitely understand how letting out the grief through writing is beneficial. It’s cathartic. I did it when I was going through therapy and through various tragedies in my life. When redoing my blog, I debated whether or not to include those posts because, again, I’m trying to cut back on the sad stuff. I decided to include it, because they are a part of me and chronicle some of the hardest times in my life. If someone wants to look back five years, have at it!

    I really admire you for having confidence in yourself. For being able to come out of your shell and accept the love/support from strangers that truly care. Someday I will get there 🙂

    xox

  • Thank you for sharing this!
    I happen to agree and will also continue to write about the real me and my real family 😉
    I believe people would rather read honest posts rather then some post I wrote that they know isn’t me, isn’t me sharing true feelings that I usually gtry and convey through past posts and I don’t know, I feel like when you are honest and post about personal topics that many others can relate to, your readers trust you more.
    I love this post! Thanks again!

  • Ashlee says:

    I always love when bloggers get a little personal, whether it’s rare or often. I just enjoy getting to know the person writing the blog, see their true colors, discover what makes them tick, learn their passions. There are so many people in the world, so I always love to see what makes that person THAT person. Thanks for sharing!

  • Patty says:

    I LOVE This post and appreciate it more that words can say! I started my blog 5 years ago as a way to journal about the painful walk through Alzheimer’s that I was experiencing with my dad. He passed away three years ago, and three months later, my oldest daughter walked out (18 at the time) halfway thru her sr year in highschool, leaving our family devastated and sorrowful. I have shared very openly on my blog about my struggles and sorrow as I’ve walked this painful road, and I find that when I’m real, people appreciate that and they comment and often times share their own struggles with me. It’s when I try to be something I’m not that my writing loses it’s intensity and value. Thank you for this reminder today!

    • Patty – Thank you for your comment. And I’m so sorry for your loss of your father. Your losses, as it seems so so very hard. I appreciate you sharing here and I appreciate that you can relate and do so on your blog, as well. I look forward to heading over to read some of your writing. Sending you hugs on this Saturday morning.

  • Elizabeth says:

    I think personal stories make you more real to your reader. Although I don’t share a lot, I still share pieces of me in my writing. I think that is essential to make you real and imperfect to those who come to read. Maybe some don’t like it, but it is part of the reason why I blog. And, if I take that away, then why blog? I know I have oversimplified that, but really, blogging is an outlet, and if it isn’t a little about me, then it isn’t why I started blogging. Great post. Thanks!

  • I do. When I first started out, I was trying to keep my blog more like a homemaking resource, and that, to me, meant keep myself out of it. But as time went by, I realized my readers didn’t really want that. They do want the information but they seem to like the personal element, too. So I guess I have a mixture.

    One thing I’ve read a lot is that you need to be yourself when you blog. So if that’s who you are, then go for it. No one is forced to read your stuff. If they don’t like the personal stories, there are plenty of other blogs out there.

  • I’m working on a post now about how I wait until everything is Pinterest perfect to publish a post and how I’m feeling stuck because it isn’t always authentic. The writing comes much easier when I just let it flow without thinking. Thank you for sharing this!

  • Shelly says:

    I absolutely do. And I appreciate when others do too, so thank you. 🙂

    I’ve written about depression (postpartum and general), the time my marriage almost ended and how it was salvaged (to become better than ever!), parenting faux pas, etc.

    Being transparent about life is my gift to others. I believe it lends them an ear, an exhale, and a chance to be raw/themselves. In other words, they’re in imperfect company :).

  • Amanda Long says:

    If I don’t share the real me on my blog I get writers block. The only way to write is the truth and that’s staying real to me and who I am and my family and how they are. 🙂 Writing helps us all, so glad you were able to be helped in your time of grieving.